Facebook makes me wonder. Day after day, I see all the posts of people in Hawaii, mostly Mililani, and I wonder, are they happy? I mean, every week there’s the same post of, “SO DRUNK AT ___’s HOUSE” or “SO DRUNK AT THE SHACK” Doesn’t that shit get old?
I wonder if people in Hawaii get old of Hawaii and the mundane lifestyle that comes with it? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love Hawaii and will end up back there, but we’re young, and this is the time to live life and explore. Hawaii makes me restless and I get bored so fast. There are the people that post every single minute detail about their life, like where they are eating, and what computer game they are playing —- but those kind of facebook posts are so boring!
I wonder if settling for less, and settling for comfort is worth it in the end? I sure hope not.
I play on the Namwon Teachers Volleyball Team, and yesterday, I was invited to attend a teammates wedding. He is from Pusan, and is marrying a Namwon woman, who is also a teacher (she does not play volleyball). He’s a nice guy and always drives me home from practice. He speaks OK English, and he kept telling me he wanted me to attend his wedding. Korea is full of Christians, and Namwon has at least 50 churches, give or take. However, Koreans do not get married in churches. Instead, they go toWedding Halls. Wedding Halls are basically convention center type buildings with many banquet-looking halls in them. I did not know Namwon had one, until yesterday. It’s on the edge of the city, but it is a very big building, it’s across the street from the Hospital. I had heard stories of how Koreanweddings were celebrated, but I was not prepared for what I witnessed. There were 4 floors in the Wedding Hall, and there were so much people. I was really confused when I got there, because I don’t read Korean or speak it, plus I was not told what exact room it was being held in. I luckily found another teammate, and he showed me where to go. The wedding started at 12, but I was a little late, so I did not see the procession. When I walked in to the room, I swear it looked like I was walking into a Korean pop song, you know, the kine music videos they show on Channel 4. Bright flashing lights, big chandeliers, everyone dressed in sparkling clothes (for some reason, it’s popular for Korean people to wear clothes that shine, even the men. They have ties that have glitter and stuff). The bride’s wedding dress was white, but every time the light hit it, you were blinded by all the shiny glitter and stuff.OK so imagine a big banquet room, about the size of Rec 5. There’s a raised platform in the middle that the bride walks down. Surrounded by it are tables, not lines of chairs like in a church. Everyone sits at the table, and watches the ceremony. ALL the decoration was fake. At first I noticed all the flowers everywhere, decorating the walkway and stage, but then I realized that there was no smell of flowers! Even the bride’s bouquet was fake (I’m pretty sure of it!) There is no wedding party, no groomsmen or bridesmaids. Instead of a wedding party, the Wedding Hall workers were the ones that helped the bride out. They were dressed like flight attendants, and they would move her veil for her, or dress and stuff. The bride and groom stand by themselves with their parents sitting in chairs behind them. I swear to God the grooms father fell asleep. I don’t know who the wedding is officiated by. I don’t know if it’s a priest or just a regular person? But I did notice one of my other teammates “MCing” the wedding in the corner. He had a microphone and was sort of telling the crowd what was going on? Also, during the entire “ceremony” nobody was quiet! There was no door to the room, so you could hear everything that was going on in the lobby. It was so bizarre. They never have “you may now kiss the bride.” It sort of just ended. After the “ceremony,” a wedding cake was wheeled on stage. It was fake! Two candles were lit, and they blew it out like it was their birthday. Then, in true Korean fashion, a few of their friends came up on stage, and sang for them. The bride and groom just stood there, I felt awkward for them! After the fake cake and karaoke, it was, done? People just kind of got up, and left. Two photos were taken, one with the family and one with friends. After that, everyone was ushered out. It was 12:45. The wedding was done. The next wedding started at 1:00pm. It was one of the most bizarre experiences I’ve had. It was supposed to be the most romantic day of their lives, but yet, nothing about that felt romantic. It was very obvious that they were trying to hard to mimic Western-style weddings, but yet, they didn’t quite get it. I notice that a lot of things Korean. They try to imitate all things Western, but don’t quite get it. So that is how Korean weddings are done. I gave them 50 dollars as a wedding gift. Good thing I didn’t go with a blender, because I noticed no one else gave a wrapped present, and then I would have been the weird one.
I FINALLY discovered THE UNDERGROUND GROCERY, located in Gwangju. It’s a grocery store with western products. I had heard about it through other foreign friends, and I’ve tried unsuccessfully a few times to try and find it in Gwangju to no avail. I finally found it online tonight, and I can’t wait to get there next week and raid it!
I ordered the Kodak Sport Play camcorder. It’s supposed to be better than the flip-vid, and it’s waterproof. So stoked, it should be coming in a box by this week! Speaking of this week, I have a pretty sick weekend! I’m attending the Bi Bim Bap Festival in Jeonju on Friday night, and then I’m going to a wedding of a local friend I have here. I’m stoked because I get to see how a wedding is done in Korea!
A few months ago I found “The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” in a bookstore in Jeonju, and I picked it up and was pretty hooked on it. It’s the first of a three-part series, called The Millenium Trilogy, following the life of a “crazy” Swedish girl, with, a dragon tattoo. The second book was a little bit slower than the first, but nonetheless I finished it. I was able to get the third and final edition in Cambodia, for $4.00usd, and I got through 200 pages, and I stopped. It sucks. There is so much nonsense and random story lines, that it adds up to a big bunch of nothing. I hate not finishing a book, but along with “Anna Karenina” I had to put it down. I am starting up a book another book I bought in Cambodia, this one about the genocide that happened there. It’s quite heartbreaking and very sad. I ordered some books from a Korean distributor of English books, “One Day” and “The Corrections.” I am interested to see the hype of Jonathan Franzen (TIME Magazine calls him “The next great American author).
I’ve currently been listening to so much music. Elton John, The Eagles, Brandon Flowers and Keane have been on my playlists. I’m excited to download the new Kings of Leon album, but afraid that they’re getting too mainstream and overexposed.
i never thought i’d say it, but i miss going to zippy’s at 3am drunk and ordering chili and rice. or portuguese omelette sandwich. or zip-pack or fried noodles. or spam, eggs and rice. man, i never thought i would miss that place.
Earlier in my blog, I stated that I get uncomfortable around lots of Asians, and Asians who act like they are black/white. I do not live in America, so I do not necessarily hear the newest music, but I was browsing iTunes, and this is the #1 download right now.
I get really uncomfortable when I’m around a lot of Asians. I get really uncomfortable when I’m around a lot of Asians that try to act white or black. I get really uncomfortable when I’m around Asians that think they are moke.